Watching Less Porn Never Leads to a Bad Outcome

You might be wondering why in the world a site that focuses mainly on self improvement and productivity would tackle a subject as taboo as porn.  It’s simple.  Because in order to become more productive and to be a better person, you’ve got to seek out every single avenue that will lead to improvement.  And those avenues include either adding things into your life, or removing things from your life.  And one of the things that’s prevalent in a considerable amount of people’s lives (including mine) is watching porn.

Let me preface this by saying I’m not here to talk about how pornography is wrong.  I’m not here to talk about its addictive nature.  I’m not here to talk about how porn is a justification of sex trafficking.  I’m also not here to justify pornography in improving a couple’s sex life.  I’m not here to support the notion that porn will destroy relationships.  I’m not here to debate whether or not watching porn is a form of cheating on your significant other.  The fact of the matter is that some people are highly affected by pornography and some people aren’t.  I’ll leave the debating to everyone else out there.

This isn’t a political site.  You can find mountains of information of this stuff out there and read about it for the next 10 years if you want to.  From an academic standpoint that could be an interesting endeavor.   However, I’m here to talk about my own experience in the hope that perhaps some of you out there might be able to relate in order to make your own decisions about how you approach porn use.

My own experience with pornography

I like watching porn.  There, I said it.  I’m not ashamed of it.  I don’t think it’s damaged me in any way.  But like anything else in life, too much of something can be detrimental at times whereas at other times it might be beneficial.  For me personally?  Too much porn watching generally doesn’t serve me well.  It doesn’t mean I necessarily think it’s wrong.  It doesn’t mean I’ll never watch it again.  It just means that if I’m in a “zone” where I’m watching porn consistently it doesn’t really produce great results.  And what do I mean by that?

I mean that my brain just doesn’t seem to function as well.  There’s no other real way to describe it.  I don’t think I’m as creative when I’m watching porn.  I don’t think I’m as attentive to my wife and kids when I’m watching porn.  I don’t even think I like myself as much when I’m watching porn.

Again, let me stress that this is me, and only me.  Only you can either agree that this is similar to what you experience or not.

So given all of these things I just mentioned, why do I even watch porn?  For the same reason I eat ice cream.  I like it.  It excites me.  I get a rise out of it.  It gives me a short term “boost” of satisfaction. But like ice cream I know that if I’m eating too much of it, it’s going to cause me problems.  It doesn’t mean I’ll never eat ice cream again.  It just means that I shouldn’t be eating it all too often.  And that’s how I feel about porn.  Once in a while is cool.  Too often?  That’s when the aforementioned issues will creep up.

What not watching has done for me

So what have I decided to do?  I decided to stop watching porn. Why?  Because I wanted to see what would happen.  I’ve done this before and it worked before.  Some people call it a “cleanse.”  Others call it “rewiring.”  There are studies out there that show if you stop watching porn for 60 days your brain “resets” because of all the dopamine you’ve been pumping into it (that’s the short version of it).  Again, this is research that you can do online that I’m not necessarily agreeing with or disagreeing with.  I can only speak for myself.  And what I can say for myself is this:

When I stop watching porn for a while, my brain seems to function better.  I’m not really sure how else to explain it.  I feel like I’m more patient.  I feel like I pay attention to my family better.  I feel more creative.  I feel more productive.  Hell I even feel like I’m typing at lightning speed right now.  Again, this is just me but I swear it’s true.  I just feel better.

Does this mean I’ll never watch porn again?  I have no idea.  Probably not.  Just like I won’t avoid eating ice cream ever again.  I just know that there are certain things in life that you can’t abuse.  For me, porn is one of these things.

Try not watching it for a while and see what happens

As I stated above, there’s loads of information out there to support a reduction in porn.  And that reduction may or may not help you.  But if you find yourself in a creative rut…..If you find yourself being less attentive to family and friends……If you find yourself less productive…..try not watching porn for a while. I’m not saying it will help, but it might.  It does for me.  And if there’s one thing I know to be true in my own life, it’s that not watching porn never leads to a bad outcome.

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