Have you ever gone shopping on a weekend? I’m talking pre-COVID. I’m talking Black Friday stuff. I’m talking Christmas rush.
Have you ever found yourself on a gigantic line and you’re only on line to buy just one thing?
Have you ever found yourself standing next to a person on line and within five minutes you want to remove this person from earth’s existence?
Maybe they’re on their phone. Maybe they’re being really loud. Perhaps they just smell awful.
You feel trapped. You feel stuck. You feel miserable.
By the time you reach the front of the line to buy your item you are spent. You practically feel defeated.
By the time your day is over and you’ve returned home you want nothing to do with anything.
You think to yourself, “I’m never shopping again.” And yet in a week or two you find yourself doing it all again.
That’s 100% your fault
If you find yourself complaining about this, the first person you should be blaming is yourself.
First of all, did you even need to be shopping in the first place when there’s this handy website called Amazon?
Did you really need to be going to the store during those hours?
Was any of this even necessary?
Seriously, take a look back on that event and retrace your steps.
How many things could you have done differently? Could you have woken up 30 minutes earlier and avoided the crowds?
Could you have shopped a week earlier?
Could you have planned a little better?
The answer in every one of these situations is “of course.”
Of course you could have avoided it, but there you are whining about how annoying your day of shopping was.
Guess what? That’s your fault and no one else’s.
I don’t care if the store clerk was the snottiest person in the world. It’s your fault.
I don’t care if you tripped in gum and couldn’t get it off your shoe. That’s your fault.
We need to blame ourselves
I’m not saying that there are some things in our lives that don’t “just happen.”
I get that we’re not responsible for every single tiny aspect of our lives.
But I will say that we are responsible for the majority of them. And the majority is really what makes up our lives.
The next time you find yourself complaining.
The next time you find yourself blaming.
The next time you think that the world is out to get you, pause.
That’s right, pause.
Think about what you could have done differently and what you should be doing differently.
Chances are likely that there’s always something you could have done and there’s always something you can do.