May 14 2012
Remember that show Two Guys, A Girl, and A Pizza Place? Not only was it Ryan Reynolds’ big break, but it also got us thinking about how much cooler the show would’ve been had there been more hookups. There’s nothing a little more awkward than breaking the cardinal rule of, ‘thou shalt not crap where thou sleeps’.
There’s a couple different ways this could go, but most importantly, you two horny bunnies are going to sit down and hash this out before she leaves to go into her bedroom. Certain things can be swept under the rug, but after taking your roommate to Pound Town, you need to know where you stand. Is it a one-night stand? Just friends with benefits? Or worse, a possible relationship?
One Night Stand
The average person would want to avoid any awkward interactions, so some would agree that having “the talk” as soon as you’ve blown your load is best. However, given it’s your roommate, you might want to take a little bit of a delicate approach – give it the night, and talk first thing in the morning. State your terms loud and clear. It was unexpected, and while amazing, it’s not a good idea for it to happen again.
So you and your roommate do the deed, and then you each go to your respective beds. Maybe you’re both single, or maybe one of you is actually taken. Regardless of your status, you can’t sleep because you had a taste of something you liked, and now the only thing on your mind is: I want some more of that!
First, test the waters and see how the other person feels. After all, if there’s going to be any benefiting at all, you require the other person’s approval. If the desire’s not actually mutual, then you’ve got to move on. Give the person a few days of breathing room before you try to get back to normal.
Now if the response to the suggestion is positive, then you two must set some boundaries. Both parties need to be clear on what’s allowed and what’s not. After that, it’s all fun and games till someone (or something) gets hurt.
So you banged your roommate, and now you’ve discovered that you have deeper feelings for them. Honestly, now’s a good time to freak out. Go to the bar with your buddies while you get yourself together. You need to have a conversation, using your head – and not the one beneath the belt.
If your roommate doesn’t share the same feelings, then don’t flash your cards all at once. If you’re both in a good mood, and you happened to have a great time, keep it light for a while. See if it’s in the other person’s intention to give it a try, and have a possible attraction towards you. Oh, and don’t wuss out. Ask them out! A simple, “Hey, I just want to see where this goes.”
Well, worse things have happened. There’s going to be plenty of shame walking around the apartment, not being able to talk about it at once. And for those who do talk about it before being ready to have such a talk, expect an argument for no reason.
The best thing to do is calm down, and see it for what it is, a passing moment of passion. Human beings are full of emotions, and they aren’t always channeled in the best ways. Once you’re comfortable, sit down and try to chat it out. It’s bad, but it’s not nearly as terrible as the time you hooked-up with your ex!
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